Life Doesn’t Get Better By Chance, It Gets Better By Change

by pgh

Have you ever dreamed about a better life?  Do you ever feel sad looking at the sorry state of your miserable existence?

Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you were better looking?  More fit?  More confident with girls/boys?  If you were sober?  If you had a better job?  If you travelled more?  If you had a better family?

Improving Your Life

At the same time, have you ever asked yourself what you’ve done to deserve a better life?  Or do you just look at what others have and wonder why you don’t have the same?  Do you blame it on luck, a poor roll of the dice?

There are things in life we control, and things we don’t.  There’s absolutely no use fretting over the things you can’t control.  None.  Life will throw you curve balls – it’s how you swing back at them that defines your life.

If you’re an alcoholic, there’s a good chance you spend a lot of time feeling sorry for yourself.  Stop it.  Right now.

The truth is that you aren’t entitled to a better life, but at the same time, you owe it to yourself to do take action and do everything in your power to make your life better.  And believe me, if you do the work, the results will come.  Don’t believe me?

Start logging everything you do in a day.  At the end of the day, mark off the things you’ve done that have had a positive impact in your life.  Remember, just being productive doesn’t count – showing up to work, or going to an AA meeting don’t actually accomplish anything. – its what you do there that really matters.

If you’re the type to feel sorry for yourself, I guarantee that you’re not actually filling your day with things that will have a significant, positive impact on your life 1 year, 2 year, 5 years down the road.

Take MASSIVE Action

Start taking real, massive action to improving every aspect of your life – your health, your career, your relationships, your sense of fulfillment.  Get yourself out of that comfortable routine of dreaming and living in denial, and do things that push your own boundaries.  Write down lists of goals, and break them down into tangible, measurable steps with firm deadlines.  This way if you fail, you can look back and see for yourself that you didn’t fail because of chance, but because you didn’t take the steps necessary to create change.

Your life will only get better if you make real changes.  Stop sitting back and hoping for things to get better, and go out and take actual steps towards personal growth and becoming who you want to be.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

J April 29, 2013 at 5:38 am

This is complete bull crap. Stop saying things like this. Things that are stated above doesn’t take away the fact that you have no job, you keep getting turned down for jobs despite you best positive outlook, your unemployment runs out and you have NO MONEY AT ALL. There is nothing stated here that is going to help anyone unless you have a get rich quick scheme. This is like that stupid The Secret dvd. The only secret in that the creator single handedly managed to dupe MILLIONS of Americans into believing hogwash. How exactly DOES one swing back from getting crapped on over and over again? There is ONLY SO MUCH SWING PEOPLE CAN HAVE without feeling like it’s hopeless.

You want us to stop it? You should do the same.

Josh August 30, 2013 at 4:41 am

Hi J,

I’ve never read “The Secret”, but I agree that its a bit silly. The difference between “The Secret” and what I wrote above, is that I’m not saying you can magically change your circumstances through positive thinking. The universe WILL NOT respond to your positive thoughts. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, that’s just the way it is. I’m saying that no matter what, you have to keep putting one step in front of the other. If you don’t take action and do something for yourself, nothing will change.

I disagree that there is “only so much swing people can have” – that’s up to you, and I’m sure you have a few more swings left in you! But I completely understand that feeling. I’ve felt that way many times before, completely down on my luck, no hope in sight. You just have to keep trudging forward, because that’s all you can control. Some of us have definitely been dealt a lousy hand or worked ourselves into a corner, but at the end of the day, no one is going to take care of you except for yourself.

I feel really sorry that you believe that your only options are unemployment or a get rich quick scheme. In my personal experience, the world hasn’t been quite as black and white as that, but if you really believe that your only options are unemployment or a get rich quick scheme, then unfortunately that’s probably all you’re going to find. Not because of some mystical energy force, but because of the very real “self-fulfilling” prophesy phenomenon.

I wish you all the best,